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Monday, February 2, 2015

Hate Your Job? Research Says Your UNIFORM May Be The Culprit! (TIPS at the end)

It's Monday again! And for a lot of us that means returning to a job that you fucking hate. You may think the mind numbing repetition and lack of intellectual stimulation is the cause for your slow aching decent into all consuming hatred of your job but research shows that what you're wearing could be one huge factor that you're overlooking!



NOTE: As a female, I use female terms and examples, but MEN I'm sure you can use your creative imagination to spin this article in your direction.

Last year alone I bumbled through three dead end jobs.

Each job started the same, I looked killer during the interview, feeling great about myself and the new position. Even the first few weeks were okay. The uniforms, albeit uninspiring, were still crisp so I felt like I was wearing a costume, like dress up. But as the weeks grew into torturous months, my enthusiasm slumped dramatically... I found myself getting into arguments, me, the most agreeable and compromising "go with the flow" chick out there! I scraped myself out of bed each morning, throwing on the same sad, wrinkled uniform as the day before and seriously contemplating the day when I would just walk the fuck out.

If you can relate to this downward trend than you know that there are infinite reasons and articles explaining why this happens. But, have you ever stopped to consider that maybe your uniform is the issue?

What you wear affects your mood

It's a scientific fact.

According to Anna Akbari, a sociologist writing for DailyWorth.com, the Colors you wear affect your mood. Most work environments have a dark/neutral palette that could actually be making you depressed! 

More interestingly, the Washington Post revealed that the Purpose of your clothes affect your performance. According to researchers Adam Galinsky and Hajo Adam, how you feel about certain types of clothing or what it represents to you will actually change you while dressed in the clothing. The example they provided was an experiment where half a group was given doctor's lab coats, the other dressed in street clothes. Both groups were tested but the lap coat group tested higher. In the second experiment, the entire group was given lab coats but the first half were told they were artist smocks. When tested the lap coat group scored higher still! Because they associate lab coats with doctors and intelligence, they actually became more intelligent! I.e. if you feel like fast food uniforms are for underachievers, you're going to act like an underachiever. Fascinating stuff, right?

But as a girl who's been through a roller-coaster ride of hideous uniforms and restrictions, I've got one very important piece to the puzzle:

Clothing carries memories

Now this might sound a little new age or I don't know... hippieish at first, but let me break it down for you. 

Remember the sweatshirt that you stole from your boyfriend because you loved how big it felt on you? It gave you comfort and love. Remember when you and the boyfriend broke up? You couldn't even look at that sweatshirt... or maybe worse, you secretly kept it and whenever you'd wear it, you'd feel how it felt to be with him. But... I thought it was just a sweatshirt, right? Exactly, it's not just a sweatshirt and it's not just a uniform. It's the physical place holder of the memories you made while in the clothing! Imagine if you were forced to wear your ex-boyfriend's shirt everyday? It'd be pretty darn hard to move on, wouldn't it?

That's what it feels like to wear a uniform. You're never able to stylistically "move on" from yesterday's failure or how last week's difficult customer made you feel about as small as a grain of salt. The memories build, accumulating in the threads until one day you look in the mirror and realize you hate your job, your life sucks and you want out of this joint!  I think that's why fast food restaurants with very strict/specific (and ugly) uniforms have the highest employee turnover rate.

Is your mind blown yet?!?

So at this point you might be thinking... well, now what? 

You didn't really think I'd just spew those bleak stats and leave? Wait... did you?

Well, you're wrong! I've compiled some excellent tips to help you reclaim the excitement you had in the early days to be one of the few, the proud, the employed.



1.Ask your boss or someone in charge about the parameters of the dress code

With this knowledge you can push right to the edge of your own stylistic expression without getting in trouble. Trust me, knowing that (A) you look amazing and (B) you're not in a box anymore will have you feeling 10x more excited to strut into work each day.

2. Find the most flattering (while still appropriate) version of your uniform


If you have to wear black pants but it doesn't matter what type, go for a pair of Skinny or the most flattering cut for your body type and shape.

3. Accessorize

I wore bow's and cute DIY headbands that matched my stores colors. The owners thought I was super dedicated and even joked that my headband should become an official part of the uniform.

4. Wear sexy underwear

Like I said, what you wear affects how you feel, and every woman feels super confident in lingerie! Trust me, every little bit counts.


5. Change jobs


Yes, get the fuck out of there! This is of course a last resort, but if you ever find yourself in a position where you're depressed, have no motivation and just truly hate your job--leave. The money, the whatever you think this job gives you isn't worth your soul! 

Comment below about your work's dress code or uniform and how it makes you feel. Let us know if you've used our tips and if you see any improvement and we'll do a follow up article!

Share this with your friends and family struggling to stay motivated at their job

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Wednesday, December 31, 2014

4 Sneaky Layering Tricks to stay THOT happy AND Warm this New Year’s Eve


We all know the drill, New Year’s Eve rolls around once again at lightning speed. Before we gather at those cozy house parties, waiting for that gaudy crystal ball to drop, we’re raiding our closet, prepared to dazzle everyone with our Sunday’s best. We’re not prepared however to get frost bites on our lady parts in the process.

Never fear.

You can be a THOT and WARM this New Year’s Eve with these 4 simple and sneaky layering tricks.



DISCLAIMER: WE DON’T ACTUALLY CONDONE THE USE OF THE TERM “THOT” BECAUSE IT’S DEMEANING TO WOMEN’S SEXUALITY AND OUTWARD EXPRESSION. NO SLUT SHAMING FOLKS


1: Sheer Panty hose
Photo cred to: TimesUnion.com

If you really must show some succulent thigh, slip on some sheer panty hose. Yup, sheer panty hose. Remember them, the kind your grandma used to wear. Dust them suckers off from the back of the closet and make sure your 6 inch pointed nails don’t put a run in them.

THOT plus: You appear to have lots of skin showing, plus it’s fun for bae to peel them off when you’re christening the New Year.

WARM plus: Even though panty hose are such a thin material, the tight weave really packs a punch against harsh winter winds.


2: Leggings on Leggings on Leggings aka Leggingception



Now we all know that pants are expressly forbidden in the THOT creed in favor of sausage dresses and of course, the holy grail of all that is THOT—the legging. But no one said you had to wear just one pair. Lots of stores have made it their responsibility to make Leggings more THOT weather friendly adding fleece-like materials inside of leggings to act as insulation.

THOT plus: You get to have your leggings and no one will ever know your little secret that you’re actually warm.

WARM plus: The key here is to create so many layers between your skin and the outside that you don’t even feel the wind. Plus if someone sloshes their 40 oz on you, you probably won’t even feel it till you leave the party (That’s doubles as a THOT bonus)

LOGIC plus: According to popular mathematicians, 2 pair of leggings is equal to one pair of pants, so if you explain this to all the haters giving you dirty looks at the party, I’m sure they’ll understand.

3: Ear Muffs

Three Words: Minimal Hair Flattening—because, let’s be honest, you’re either rocking a glorified bun, sex hair or some mutation of both and you wouldn’t want a burly hat ruining all the non-effort you put into your tresses. Plus Ear Muffs are super cute.

THOT Plus: They’re kind of like winter’s version of animal ears—and we all know how THOTS feel about animal ears (cough cough—just because you’re wearing cat ears and a leotard doesn’t mean you’re a house cat—cough)



WARM plus: Your ears don’t turn blue… or fall off from frost bite.

4: Gigantic Scarf


Because a THOT will never wear a coat… ever, this way you can trick your body into a little extra body heat. Our advice, get a big fluffy one that can also flip up over your mouth and ears just in case you didn’t take our ear muff advice seriously… which you probably didn’t.

THOT Plus: Everyone knows that the fastest way to looking instantly less like a basic bitch is to throw on a scarf. Studies show that while you’re walking around town on your way to turn up, a scarf can act as THOT camouflage to the untrained eye. Bonus points if you’re sporting fresh Starbucks.


Warm plus: The neck is actually very sensitive to temperature especially cold, so it’s important to be proactive in keeping that area warm… you didn’t think I was actually gonna spit knowledge on you were you? Nah, you weren’t ready.


!!!THOT-TASTIC SELFIE BONUS!!!


Shirt: Rue21 (Men)
Leggings: Rue 21
Earrings: Dots
Hair: 20 in. Malaysian--sike, that's all mine!


HAPPY THOTING!

Let us know how warm you are, or send us some pics. We love getting pics!

If you liked our advice... or even if you hated it, write us a comment below the post and share with your friends

Also, if you liked this post, you'll love... and probably need after tonight--The Turn Up Survival Kit
 

Friday, July 18, 2014

3 Simple Questions to BOOST your CONFIDENCE... and SEX APPEAL

Yay, our very first How-to Friday!

Sooo, wanna know how to boost your confidence and your SEX appeal (mainly the sex appeal, right?) Keep reading!!!

1. What's your favorite color?
Remember those corny ass first grade "get to know yourself" questions? Yeah, we tried forgetting them too-but, some of them should be brought back from the dark recesses of your mind because they serve as vital keys along your journey to Mordor-I mean style and confidence (hold up, awesome idea though! We're totally doing a Lord of the Rings photo shoot!)
Why this works: Think about it, the key to confidence is to feel great about yourself. If you know your favorite color, then you'll know what color you love wearing, and when you love what you're wearing it oozes from your pores (not literally, that would be disgusting) but people can sense that, and they're drawn to it. See where our minds are going... eh?
Tip: Don't just limit this to color, find your other favorites: shirts, shoes, styles, hair cuts, and you'll find be one step closer to not only looking better and feeling better, but getting noticed ;) (You know what I mean!)

What's our favorite color?
Portia d. :Turquoise 
Yvonne Dion: Pink and cream (it's totally legal to like color combos!)
Clarice: Every color all together
Lizbeth: Cheetah (wait-that's not a color...meh, we're flexible on the whole "color" thing)
Derris: Red. For now
Wow, I feel closer to you, don't you feel closer?!

2. Why do you get dressed?
Another one of those questions even more basic than the first that I bet you've never really thought about. People have tons of reasons and excuses for why they get dressed, but what's yours? To impress, for comfort, to feel sexy, because you have to... ('cause there's tons of nudist colonies out there for ya! Don't wear clothes if you don't want to!)
Why this even matters, homie: I feel like this is the most obvious connector between style, confidence and sex, but if I really must point it out--your exterior is everything, therefore if you don't even know why you're decorating it, you'll never attract the right audience. Your Netflix-binge-watching sweats DO NOT say, "You, walking down the street, want to fuck me?" They. Just. Don't. 
And when you feel more confident about the purpose of your wardrobe, you'll feel more confident that you'll get it. Ah, see what we did there???
Tip: So next time you're picking up that wrinkled pea green Ninja Turtles T-shirt that's 3 sizes too big, think to yourself: Why am I wearing this... as that voice inside your head whispers (and will it help me get laid?)

3. What is your style?
Every style has a person attached to it, right? Are you indie, rock, classy, hip hop...? That's kinda important. Your style doesn't have to fall under one category. You take elements from different ones to create a style that is unique to you!

 


What does that have to do with confidence?
Your style says a lot about you and the person you will attract. Once you discover and own your style, your confidence will shine through! People admire and respect others who are not afraid of being different, and being different helps you stand apart from the crowd. Sooo, maybe he/she might notice you from all the way across the dance floor because of your killer style, but clothes may not be the topic by the end of the night! ;)

Tip: When developing your style, think "does this make me look sexy?" Sexy doesn't necessarily mean slutty or too forward, but think about what showing off your best assets!

Remember to have fun with it...style that is. It's all about being who you are!

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TGIF!! :D
Love ya!! <3 <3

                
               






Saturday, February 1, 2014

Live a MORE FULFILLING life with these 3 small activities!

Who needs a whole new year to start fresh?!



Starting today (2/1/2014) Portia D. of Deporian has started three 30 day challenges!




But first: Inspiration (This will get you pumped)




Challenge One: No added sugar


 The Guidelines
Challenge yourself not to eat anything that you know has added sugar of 5g or more. If you're unsure, don't consume anything that tastes sweet.

Tip
 This doesn't include fruits

Why do it? 
Our body can become addicted to processed sugar which feed a fungus known as candida. This can cause certain yeast infections (not just the one between your legs!) Candida overgrowth is linked to depression, anxiety, fatigue, irritability and difficulty concentrating to name a few!

Stay Motivated
See this as a way to challenge your cooking skills and taste buds. Try making meals that evoke different flavors like savory, spicy, bitter or tart!



Challenge Two: Exercise and Stretch

The Guidelines
Exercise for a total of 45 minutes. Stretch for 45 minutes. This is the bare minimum. 

Tip
Take into account that you should stretch before and after exercise anyways to avoid injury.

Why do it?
Everybody knows that exercising releases the feel good chemical "endorphin", but also stretching keeps you limber and flexible, less likely to throw a muscle, and more in tune with your body.

Stay Motivated
Stretching and exercising with friends or in front of a good show is a great way to keep your mind off of the repetition.


Challenge Three: Look Nice/Daily Photography


The Guidelines
Dress to impress (yourself at least) every single day! No repeat outfits. Take at least one photo of your great outfit. Keep it to yourself of share it with Deporian!

Tip
You can repeat items, but not whole looks.

Why do it?
Everyone has their days where they want to slouch around in PJ's or sweats, but looking good is actually linked to feeling good. This can boost self, esteem, outlook on life and increase motivation.

Stay Motivated
We recommend looking up the latest styles or at our own archive to get inspiration for the day. You'll definitely receive positive feedback for looking nice anyways ;)



Bonus!!!Life Challenge: Drink More Water

The Guidelines
We should drink a minimum of 8 cups a day, but for some of us that's hard. We want to challenge ourselves to drink one more glass a day than we usually drink until we reach those 8 a day.

Tip 
Drink out of containers that clearly label the capacity so you can monitor your intake.

Why do it?
Our bodies are 75% water. More simply, if you want to live, you need water. Also, drinking water improves skin, hair, nails and even your mood! Feeling a little sick? Drink water. Anxious? Drink water. 


So what do you say! Are you ready to challenge yourself?


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Send your challenge photos to our Email (Deporian2011@gmail.com)

Thursday, January 16, 2014

Every (straight) guy should remember this!


See original image here


I hate it when you think that just because you have me right now, that you're going to have me forever.


I should always be treated like your dream girl,


That Means:
Opening Doors
Letting me Order First
Looking and Smelling Nice
Listening to Me
Researching Dates
Getting me Flowers
Writing Love Letters
Telling me I'm Beautiful

*This applies to any relationship where lovers get lazy and stop appreciating what's right in front of them.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2011

We're not just models



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